Valentine’s Day, unlike every other holiday, is a holiday for couples. Christmas, Easter, birthdays, Thanksgiving, New Year's; all are holidays that can be celebrated easily with friends and/or family. Valentine’s Day is tough to enjoy when you’re single. There’s no help for it. If you’re unhappy about your lack of an “other”, it’s a miserable holiday. The whole week or two proceeding the holiday is one big reminder, everywhere you look.
What to do? If you’re single and unhappy about it, on Valentine’s Day you have a choice to make. You can choose to ignore the whole thing; a little difficult when there are hearts everywhere you look and every other television commercial is trumpeting lovey-dovey-ness. You can put on a brave public face and then hole up in your house with a bottle of wine and cry. You can relish the idea that on February 15th a lot of really good chocolate is going on sale. Or, you can redefine the holiday.
One of my very good girlfriends is doing just that. She decided that Valentine’s Day should be about celebrating the love of good friends. She has rented two houses in one of the little towns around here and has invited a bunch of friends to join her for the weekend. You have to be single to attend. The plan for Friday night is to try out a newly opened little bar. Saturday there is a fish fry and then a concert/dance to attend. I imagine the rest of the weekend will be spent telling stories and laughing.
There are men and women attending this little get-together; mostly all old friends. She’s not expecting anyone to fall in love, she says, just have a good time. I salute my friend for being proactive about this sometimes difficult holiday. I’ll probably run over and join them for dinner at least once.
Are you unhappily single? What are your plans for the weekend? Are you hunkering down or heading out into it?
What to do? If you’re single and unhappy about it, on Valentine’s Day you have a choice to make. You can choose to ignore the whole thing; a little difficult when there are hearts everywhere you look and every other television commercial is trumpeting lovey-dovey-ness. You can put on a brave public face and then hole up in your house with a bottle of wine and cry. You can relish the idea that on February 15th a lot of really good chocolate is going on sale. Or, you can redefine the holiday.
One of my very good girlfriends is doing just that. She decided that Valentine’s Day should be about celebrating the love of good friends. She has rented two houses in one of the little towns around here and has invited a bunch of friends to join her for the weekend. You have to be single to attend. The plan for Friday night is to try out a newly opened little bar. Saturday there is a fish fry and then a concert/dance to attend. I imagine the rest of the weekend will be spent telling stories and laughing.
There are men and women attending this little get-together; mostly all old friends. She’s not expecting anyone to fall in love, she says, just have a good time. I salute my friend for being proactive about this sometimes difficult holiday. I’ll probably run over and join them for dinner at least once.
Are you unhappily single? What are your plans for the weekend? Are you hunkering down or heading out into it?
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Redefining Valentine's Day is a good idea for singles. Maybe I and my girlfriends should try it!
What a wonderful idea your friend has! :) I'm "sort of" single - it's one of those relationships - but mentioned last night that it's V-Day on Saturday and got the reply "I've been thinking about that, too!" So...we'll see. I haven't got a clue what to get him, though, but some quality time together is always nice and I suppose I could try to c-o-ok something... :P
I think Valentine's Day is impossible to avoid so we'd better find a way to enjoy it! @Arisha - let me know if you come up with something clever!
@Northern LA - Good luck, I hope it's a wonderful day for you!
I think your friend's idea of how to celebrate Valentine's Day is lovely!
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